Are you looking to hear from youth voices? Dear Chuck is a column that will allow parents, GSTA advisors, community members, and more to submit questions that will be reviewed and answered by youth age 16-22 who are a part of the queer futures group with OUT Maine staff support. If you have a question please submit it to dearchuck@outmaine.org or use the form below!

What is a Q Card?

What is the feedback from youth on the Q card? How best to present its use/purpose to youth? Here is our response: It would be better if it was talked about with more people. If providers were able to have more people use it. Some feel it is no difference than writing...

Polysexual vs. Polyamory?

Dear Chuck, what is the difference between Polysexual and Polyamorous Here are some “official” definitions to help us get started. A polysexual person is someone who is sexually and/or romantically attracted to multiple genders. It is not the same as being bisexual or...

Dear Chuck: To Ask or Not to Ask

Dear Anonymous: If you have someone who has not yet shared their pronouns with you, the best to do is offer your own pronouns. Say "Hello, my name is _____, and I use (he/him) pronouns." It is best to let this person share their pronouns with you on their own terms...

Supporting All Students

Q: Dear Chuck, I have a question that I was hoping you could help support. I have a student in fourth grade who is having a hard time accepting a student who identifies as female but was born male.  This fourth grader has had conversations at home with her parents and...

Coming Out to Unsupportive Family Members

Q: My child recently came out to me as transgender, and I am trying to figure out the best way to support my child around sharing this information with our extended family (grandparents, cousins, etc.) Not everyone in our family has the most inclusive mindset. I want...

Changing Pronouns

Q: Dear Chuck, Is it normal for my child to change pronouns regularly? How can I support them with this? A: Dear Anonymous, Yes, it is perfectly appropriate for your child to explore various pronouns as a part of their gender exploration journey. As a caring adult,...